Love is Vulnerability - Shazi. :)
As I close my eyes and drift away to a land where there is love, health, peace and blessings. I wanted to take the time to think and reflect. The truth is I think that when a new academic year begins for any student, it really is a time of getting in to a new routine, making sure we have all of the supplies, books, materials, courses, finances, and supports in place. As we finally settle in the new class schedule's we are also faced with the tasks to prioritize the readings, making sure we are prepared for classes. As any course professor will tell you, I find that it is always better to do the assigned readings before the class. After you have finished the readings, it may appear that there are concepts that are difficult to understand. If anyone begins to feel this way, it is OK.
1. You are perfectly primed for class, you will have a better understanding of discussions because you have already obtained a foundation to develop your thoughts during class, because of prior readings.
2. You can mark down points that need clarity
The thoughts I write about are actually true for me as well. As much as I try my very best to read ahead of class, there have been times where we get caught up. Life happens and we are not able to read ahead. When in this situation, I myself noticed the difference in my learning within the classroom discussions.
As the academic year begins, it is one goal that I have committed to - to make sure I do the readings before classes. It is with this thought I begin to think about the patient. The one who goes to the therapist, or a psychoanalyst. The Patient has an appointment and talks about his / her condition. Often at times it will be easy for a patient to fall in love with the analyst. This is certainly true for many cases that Sigmund Freud had to deal with. Male and female patients would often fall in love with him. If a psycho - analyst is listening to all the dilemma's, positives and negatives of life - it is easy for a patient to fall in love. I mean - I think that everyone wants someone who will listen to them. Who doesn't want that? A person who listens patiently to the woe's, troubles, and agonies, yet still remains patient.
So the question is - How does a psycho - analyst work through this situation and still remain professional to make sure the service is delivered? From a Freudian perspective, we can say that it is good to simply talk about what the patient is feeling. If the therapist ignores what the patient is feeling, it may send a dehumanizing message. The patients falling in love occurs because of the analytic situation, and not because of the Psycho - analyst charms or features. The patient must also acknowledge this as well. However, if the therapy is not doing what it is supposed to be doing, or the patient looses sight, and is simply focused on falling in love with the analyst, then it will be time for some reflection on part of the patient. There may have to be a discussion, about how therapy sessions proceed and what is in the best interest for the patient.
This scenario can also be related to any professional setting. What about an educational setting such as that of a teacher and a student? How does a teacher remain professional when it has become obvious that a student has developed an attachment that can be labelled as a "crush". When in this type of scenario - it is best not to ignore a student, but to take this interest back towards the learning. Show the students that you do care, take this energy and put it towards the goals of learning. This type of thinking acts as a supportive framework, rather than a negation of what is being felt.
When in a professional environment, professionals also want to be known for their human side, through their acts of service. However, there will be times when loves transference dominates the focus of learning / therapy. It must be noted that the more the feelings are resisted, they will become more dominating. Therefore it is important to acknowledge these. Maneuver the focus back to the learning and goals.
I have often compared the work of an educator or service provider to that of a philanthropist. We want what is best for the people that we serve, yet we also want to maintain a healthy boundary to keep ourselves protected.
Dedication - The words of this being are dedicated to all beings. No one is perfect, we are all unique. It is this uniqueness that truly is beautiful. My thoughts to share, with love & kindness! :)
Notes: These thoughts were originally hand - written on October 1st 2016.
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