As I close my eyes and drift away to a land where there is love, health, peace, and blessings. I wanted to take the time to think and reflect.
Particularly with regards to my previous thoughts. I began to think about the idea of motherhood, especially in the sense of its paradoxical nature. Where truly there is this intense love, and yearning associated with attachment that is secure, unconditional, with regards to the bearing of children. Whilst I thought about these views from the point of view as a mother whose children are young adults, I reflected back to think that the idea of teaching independence and growth happens throughout the mile stones within child development - whether it is teaching a child to sit, stand, walk, to eat, but the difference between the younger years, as compared to the late teens / young adults is that: during the younger years, children are sheltered and housed most often with parents / guardians. As they grow older they are also on the verge of gaining greater independence, where there is also a process of letting go, so that the child / young adult can experience the world. Whilst in some cultures this is regarded as easy or normative, we can look towards collectivist cultures who prefer interdependence, and keeping families together. But as migration has evolved and taken place, we see how collectivist cultures have in a sense merged with the individualist society.
I thought about this process of letting go, and the paradox. While this is a harsh truth, I wondered should it have to be so harsh? - It must be remembered that allowing this growth to take place does not ever mean complete detachment. Regardless of where one is placed within the world or culture. We always come back, meaning that there is a growth. Relations grow. But parents / care givers / guardians are always there. Just like the root of the tree. It stands ready, steady and firm. Even if some branches become hurt or broken. Parents / care givers / guardians are always there for children. Just as the bird who desires to sing, and return to mama in the nest.
Parenting itself is a learning process, throughout all stages of a Childs growth. The funny thing is that children always seem to think parents have all the answers, but we too get muddled - sometimes because we too are also simply learning.