Life | Pains Birthed

As I close my eyes and drift away to a land where there is love, health, peace, and blessings. I wanted to take the time to think and reflect.

     I think that natural birth is the best way to give birth to a baby, however; with the many interventions in place, sometimes we could say that these are for the sake of protecting the unborn life, protection of the birthing mother, or for the sake of the mother and the baby. On another level we can also think of giving birth to a baby as a test, for our ability to endure pain, that is non-life threatening. I count myself lucky that I have birthed three children naturally. Natural birth does not mean that there was no pain. The pain that was felt during these hours of labor, contractions, and birth reveal the intensity of giving birth. As well as what parents, care-givers, and guardians have to endure throughout the life of raising a child.

     In an ideal situation the child is reared by both mother and father, sharing the many rewards and sacrifices that arrive with parenting. Sometimes there are incidences, experiences, that are perpetuated by environmental, situational, or behavioural, that effect the natural parental relationships that are derived from birth. When instances as these occur, I think that decisions need to be made. Especially where relations and environments become toxic, and unhealthy for all parties that are concerned. The decisions could be viewed as selfish by some, including the cultural stigma associated with children who are provided care from trained professionals, as opposed to parents. However, cultural stigma should not be held so great that what is important is overlooked, which is the best interests of all concerned.    

     Sometimes when parents do decide to make a decision, that is tough as the birthing pain one endures, the roughness or toughness should be viewed as what is best for all, not in the sense of giving up on human life, that was birthed naturally through the mother, but to simple reveal and accept that relations have become unhealthy, and its time to try to make these healthy again. Along with time, space, and efforts to rehabilitate and regain, one can truly salvage any relationship. Teared relations do require effort, interventions. Parties must be willing to recognize and realize this. But most importantly, for anything to become healthy once more, one must invest in self-care, and love the self to truly engage in any kind of healthy relationship. The individuals themselves must take steps, with the effective supports to heal and regain a healthy control of the mind, body, soul and spirit. As easy as it does sound, in some cases self-care must also learned.

    Dedication:
 These thoughts are dedicated to the many professionals who work effortfully to keep communities, families and youth safe. The many professionals who act as care-givers and guardians often bearing the similar pains of birth. To the emergency services who are often stigmatized with ideas of racial profiling, which does exist at times, but also there are missions to serve and to protect that cannot be overlooked.

    In many areas, especially the urban metropolitan, which is constantly shifting and changing, due to the many socio-economic, political, technological, socio-psychological factors. These affect at the macro level of the community. Factors associated with urbanization transcend to the level of the individual. Often resulting in the many micro factors that are responsible for behavioural shifts, that are enough to tear relations apart. To once again hopefully salvage and restore, with the assistance of trained professionals. Who possess a genuine public duty to care, rehabilitate individuals, for the sake of the individual, community, and the greater good of society. 

My thoughts to share with love & kindness! :) 

Notes: These thoughts were originally hand-written on January 15th, 2019.
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